Few prayers come from a place of deeper vulnerability than the plea for a husband’s love, especially when emotional distance, silence, or conflict has replaced affection and connection. The pain of feeling unloved by your spouse can be profoundly isolating, leading to doubt and despair about the future of the marriage. Yet, in this sacred covenant, your intercession is a powerful spiritual tool, actively inviting the God of love to step into the emotional fracture and restore the affection that was promised.
Engaging in this prayer is not about manipulating your husband’s will, but about submitting your marriage to God’s divine design, asking Him to perform the miracle of reconciliation and renewed commitment. You are petitioning the Holy Spirit to soften his heart, remove spiritual and emotional barriers, and empower him to fulfill the covenant command to love his wife as Christ loved the church. Let these scriptures anchor your hope as you fight for the restoration of passion, unity, and deep, enduring love in your home.
23 Prayer For My Husband To Love Me
1. Ephesians 5:25 (ESV)
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,”
This scripture defines the standard of marital love, which is not emotional feeling, but sacrificial action: as Christ loved the church. This requires a supernatural empowerment far beyond human capacity. We pray for the Holy Spirit to convict and empower the husband to love his wife with this self-giving, intentional, and covenant-keeping love, even when it feels difficult or undeserved, choosing to prioritize her well-being above his own interests.
Lord, I pray for my husband to be convicted and empowered by the Holy Spirit to fulfill the covenant command to love me as Christ loved the church. I pray that his love would be defined by sacrificial action, choosing to give himself up for me, prioritizing my emotional and spiritual welfare above his own comfort and interest. Remove any selfishness and replace it with the pure, intentional love that reflects Your divine design for our marriage.
2. Ezekiel 36:26 (ESV)
“And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.”
When a husband seems emotionally closed off, cold, or distant, it indicates a heart of stone that prevents connection and affection. This verse promises God’s miraculous ability to perform a spiritual heart transplant. We pray for this divine intervention, asking God to remove any hardness caused by past hurts, bitterness, or complacency, replacing it with a heart of flesh that is soft, responsive, and receptive to deep emotional intimacy and affection for his wife.
Father, I pray for a miracle in my husband’s emotional life, asking that You would remove any heart of stone that prevents him from loving me openly and deeply. I ask You to replace it with a heart of flesh that is soft, responsive, and sensitive to my emotional needs and Your promptings. Break down the emotional barriers built by past wounds or pride, and fill him with a new spirit that desires unity and affection in our marriage.
3. Colossians 3:13 (ESV)
“Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.”
Unresolved hurts and resentment are silent killers of marital love, creating a barrier that makes affection impossible. This prayer is for radical forgiveness for both spouses, asking God to illuminate any complaint either one holds against the other. We pray for the divine strength to bear with one another and extend the same generous, complete forgiveness that Christ gave us, freeing the emotional space for love to flourish again.
Lord, I pray for the supernatural grace of forgiveness to flood our marriage, illuminating any complaint or resentment that either of us holds against the other. Help us to bear with one another in love and to grant complete, Christ-like forgiveness that removes the debt of past hurts. Release us from the bondage of bitterness, so that the emotional ground is cleared and our hearts are free to love each other fully without reservation.
4. Proverbs 16:24 (ESV)
“Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”
Love is often expressed and confirmed through communication, yet broken marriages are characterized by silence, harshness, or critical words. This prayer is for the restoration of gracious speech in the husband’s life. We ask God to guard his tongue, ensuring his words are sweet, encouraging, and affirming to his wife, bringing health to her soul and reinforcing her value and place in his life.
Father, I pray for the restoration of communication in our marriage, asking that You would guard my husband’s mouth and heart. I pray that his words toward me would be gracious and affirming, like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul. Remove any criticism, silence, or harshness, and replace it with words of blessing, kindness, and genuine encouragement that confirm my value and build up our covenant bond.
5. Psalm 139:23–24 (ESV)
“Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!”
When love is absent, the immediate response is often to blame the other spouse, but this prayer is for personal humility and self-examination. We ask God to illuminate any hidden faults or unloving posture in the wife that may be contributing to the emotional distance. By seeking personal repentance first, we clear our own spiritual ground, creating an atmosphere of grace that invites the husband’s heart to soften.
Search my heart, O God, and know my thoughts regarding this marriage, revealing any grievous way in me that is hindering my husband’s ability to love me. Remove any pride, negativity, or unloving response in my own posture, and lead me in the way of everlasting love. Help me to take responsibility for my side of the relationship, trusting that my personal humility will invite healing and change in our home.
6. Amos 3:3 (ESV)
“Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet?”
Marital love requires unity and agreement on foundational values, purpose, and direction; distance grows when couples are no longer walking together. This prayer is for the miracle of reconciliation of purpose, asking God to align the couple’s steps, vision, and emotional goals. We pray that they would both actively choose to “agree to meet”—in purpose, prayer, and affection—so that they can walk forward in relational harmony.
Lord, I pray for the reconciliation of purpose and unity in our marriage, asking that You would align our hearts and our future vision. Since two cannot walk together, unless they have agreed to meet, I pray that You would compel us both to actively agree on the fundamentals of our marriage and family life. Remove the spirit of independence and establish a powerful agreement that allows us to walk together in peace and affection.
7. Philippians 4:19 (ESV)
“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”
When a husband is struggling to give love, it often stems from a personal lack—an unmet emotional need or deep spiritual emptiness that he cannot fill himself. This prayer is for the Holy Spirit to fill the husband with God’s sufficiency and love, meeting his deepest needs so that he can pour into his wife without depletion. We pray that he would find his ultimate fulfillment in Christ, making him spiritually whole and capable of giving true love.
Father, I pray that You would meet every deep emotional need and spiritual hunger in my husband’s life according to Your riches in glory. I ask that You would fill the emptiness that may prevent him from loving me fully, making him spiritually whole and complete. Grant him the revelation that his ultimate sufficiency and security are found in Christ Jesus alone, empowering him to love me not from depletion, but from Your overflow.
8. 1 Corinthians 13:4 (ESV)
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy; love does not boast; it is not arrogant;”
Waiting for a marriage to heal and for a husband’s heart to turn requires patience and endurance from the wife, which is a key part of her warfare. This prayer is for the Holy Spirit to empower the wife to demonstrate this Christ-like patience and kindness even in the face of emotional hurt. We pray that her reaction would be defined by the actions of pure love, creating a safe and encouraging atmosphere for her husband to return to.
Lord, I pray for the patience and kindness that is defined by Your selfless love to empower my actions and responses toward my husband. When I feel hurt or ignored, help me to demonstrate love that is patient and kind, never retaliating or reacting in ways that push him further away. Grant me the endurance to continue praying and loving faithfully, believing that my consistent love is creating the environment for reconciliation.
9. Jeremiah 29:11 (ESV)
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
Emotional distance often creates fear and a loss of hope for the future of the marriage. This verse is a foundational declaration of God’s intentional, good plan for their union. We pray for a powerful release of hope and a shared vision, asking God to shatter the hopelessness and reveal His commitment to their marriage’s welfare and positive destiny, restoring their faith in the future together.
Father, I declare Your good plans for the welfare of our marriage, shattering every feeling of hopelessness and fear about our future. I pray for a renewed shared vision between my husband and me, enabling us to believe in the good destiny You have ordained for our union. Remove all thoughts of evil and failure, and replace them with the certainty of the future and hope that You have personally planned for our covenant relationship.
10. Psalm 51:12 (ESV)
“Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and uphold me with a willing spirit.”
The emotional burden of a struggling marriage can drain the wife’s joy and affect her entire spiritual life. This prayer is for the wife’s personal spiritual restoration, asking God to restore the joy of salvation so that she does not become depleted or bitter. We pray that she would be upheld by a willing and positive spirit, allowing her to serve and love her husband from a place of spiritual overflow, rather than resentment.
Lord, I pray for the restoration of my own personal joy, asking that the burden of this marriage struggle would not extinguish my spiritual light. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation and fill my spirit with renewed hope and gratitude. Uphold me with a willing spirit so that I can approach my husband from a place of emotional fullness and peace, allowing my joy in Christ to be an attraction and a blessing to him.
11. Psalm 1:1 (ESV)
“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers;”
A husband’s heart and mind can be subtly poisoned by negative influences—unwise friends, critical family members, or destructive media—that promote independence or disrespect toward his wife. This prayer is for his protection against every form of evil counsel that would undermine his commitment to his marriage vows. We pray that he would possess the clarity and conviction to choose godly associates and counsel, actively walking away from any relationship that promotes discord or distance.
Lord, I pray for a spiritual hedge of protection around my husband, guarding him against every form of evil counsel or toxic influence that speaks against our marriage. Give him the discernment to walk not in the counsel of the wicked, choosing instead to surround himself only with people who honor their covenant and speak life into our union. I ask that he would find his greatest joy and wisdom in Your presence alone, rejecting all destructive associations.
12. Song of Solomon 8:6 (ESV)
“Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the Lord.”
Marital love, in its fullness, includes fervent passion and intimacy—the physical and emotional connection that seals the bond. This prayer is for the divine restoration of physical affection and the flame of romantic love within the marriage, asking that his heart would be sealed to his wife. We pray that God would reignite the fierce, intentional love that characterized their early relationship, making their bond indestructible and a reflection of the “flame of the Lord.”
Father, I pray for the divine restoration of passion and physical affection in our marriage, asking that Your love would be a seal upon my husband’s heart and mind. Reignite the flashes of fire that reflect the intensity of Your love, removing all coldness, apathy, or emotional distance from our intimacy. I pray that our love would be strong as death, fiercely protecting our bond and making our physical connection an honorable and joyous seal of our covenant.
13. Ephesians 5:21 (ESV)
“submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
True marital unity and love are fostered by mutual submission and selflessness, where neither spouse insists on having their own way. This verse calls both partners to lay down their pride and serve the other, an act necessary for restoring affection. We pray for the humility for both the husband and wife to demonstrate mutual honor, asking God to remove any self-interest or arrogance that prevents them from serving the other out of reverence for Christ.
Lord, I pray for the spirit of mutual submission to flood our marriage, releasing both my husband and me from the bondage of self-interest and pride. Grant us the humility to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ, prioritizing the other’s comfort, peace, and well-being. I pray that this selflessness would create a safe, honoring atmosphere where affection and appreciation naturally return and flourish.
14. Psalm 147:3 (ESV)
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Emotional distance in marriage is often rooted in unhealed past trauma or unresolved hurts that make a spouse emotionally guarded and afraid to love fully. This prayer is for the healing of wounds in the husband’s heart, asking God to tenderly bind up the brokenness that prevents him from being vulnerable. We pray that as his heart is healed, his capacity for receiving and giving love would be completely restored, freeing him to connect.
Father, I pray for Your divine healing touch on my husband’s heart, asking that You would heal the brokenhearted and bind up his wounds caused by past relationships or trauma. Remove any internal pain or fear that makes him emotionally guarded and unwilling to be vulnerable in our marriage. I pray that as You restore his inner man, his capacity for deep, sincere affection would be completely renewed, enabling him to love me without reservation.
15. Matthew 26:41 (ESV)
“Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
Spiritual warfare against a marriage often manifests by directing the husband’s focus and energy toward distractions—work, hobbies, or addictive behaviors—that pull him away from his home. This prayer is for his protection from distraction and the empowerment to prioritize his marriage. We ask God to give him the vigilance to watch and pray against any external interest that seeks to steal his time and emotional availability from his wife and family.
Lord, I pray for my husband’s complete protection from temptation and distraction that pulls him away from the covenant of our marriage. I ask that You would give him the spiritual vigilance to watch and pray against anything that consumes his time, focus, and energy. Instill in him the wisdom to prioritize our relationship above all external demands and hobbies, ensuring his time and heart are devoted primarily to his home.
16. 1 Peter 3:7 (ESV)
“Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”
The biblical command to the husband is to show honor and live with his wife in an understanding way—a direct reflection of love. This prayer is for God to grant the husband understanding and honor, revealing his wife’s needs, value, and sensitivity. We ask God to convict him that his treatment of his wife directly impacts his relationship with God, motivating him to treat her with the high regard she deserves.
Father, I pray that You would grant my husband the divine understanding and empathy needed to truly know my heart and needs. Compel him to show honor to me, recognizing my immense value as a co-heir of the grace of life, and to live with me in a thoughtful, considerate way. I pray that his desire for his own prayers not to be hindered would be a constant motivation to treat me with the highest respect and honor.
17. 1 Corinthians 1:10 (ESV)
“I appeal to you, brothers, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment.”
A lack of love often correlates with divisions and disagreements that create an atmosphere of conflict rather than unity. This prayer is for the miracle of unity in the marriage, asking God to bring the couple into agreement on core matters of life and faith. We pray that the Lord would remove all divisions and allow them to be united in the same mind and the same judgment, restoring peace and relational closeness.
Lord, I appeal to You for the miracle of unity in my marriage, asking that You would remove all divisions and conflict that prevent us from loving each other. I pray that we would both agree on the core principles of our home and be united in the same mind and the same judgment concerning our future. Bring an end to the strife and disagreement, establishing our marriage in true peace and harmony.
18. Romans 5:5 (ESV)
“and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”
The ultimate source of the husband’s ability to love is God’s love being actively poured into his heart by the Holy Spirit. This prayer is for a fresh, powerful outpouring of the Holy Spirit into the husband’s life, filling him with God’s unconditional love so completely that it overflows toward his wife. We trust that the more he experiences God’s love, the more capable he will be of reciprocating love in his marriage.
Father, I pray for a powerful outpouring of the Holy Spirit into my husband’s heart and life. I ask that God’s love would be so completely poured into his heart that it overflows toward me in abundance. Fill every area of emptiness with Your unconditional love, Lord, making him a vessel of affection and kindness, capable of loving me with the selfless love that only originates from You.
19. Ephesians 4:32 (ESV)
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
Love is often expressed through small acts of kindness and tenderheartedness, which are necessary ingredients for emotional closeness. This prayer is for a change in his daily demeanor, asking God to make the husband kind and tenderhearted toward his wife. We pray that this gentleness would be accompanied by active forgiveness, creating an environment of emotional safety and warmth.
Lord, I pray for a supernatural change in my husband’s daily demeanor, asking that he would be kind to me and tenderhearted in all his interactions. Remove any roughness, impatience, or insensitivity, and replace it with genuine gentleness and consideration. I pray that this kindness would be a constant reflection of the love that You intend for our marriage, rebuilding the emotional connection through acts of tender regard.
20. Psalm 56:3–4 (ESV)
“When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I shall not be afraid.”
The return of love requires trust—the willingness to be vulnerable again after being hurt. This prayer is for the restoration of mutual trust, asking God to remove the fear of emotional openness. We pray that both spouses would be empowered to put their trust in the other, believing that the relationship is safe and built on the fidelity of their vows.
Father, I pray for the complete restoration of trust in our marriage, asking You to remove the fear and anxiety that prevents us from being fully vulnerable with each other. Where trust has been broken, I pray for the grace to forgive and to put my trust in You so that I am not afraid. Empower my husband to be completely trustworthy in his actions and words, ensuring that our marriage is a safe haven built on fidelity and truth.
21. Proverbs 18:22 (ESV)
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
This verse is a declaration that the wife is a good thing and a source of favor from God. We pray for a powerful revelation in the husband’s mind of his wife’s true value and the blessing she represents. We ask God to remove any sense of regret or indifference, replacing it with gratitude and acknowledgment that the wife is a source of favor and blessing in his life, motivating him to cherish her.
Lord, I pray that You would give my husband a powerful revelation of my true worth and value as his wife. Compel him to recognize that he finds a good thing in me and that I am a source of favor from the Lord in his life. Remove any indifference or regret, replacing it with deep gratitude and appreciation for the blessing that our marriage represents, compelling him to love and cherish me always.
22. Romans 12:18 (ESV)
“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”
The goal of this prayer journey is ultimate peace and reconciliation, which requires the wife to maintain a posture of peaceableness regardless of the husband’s response. This prayer is for the wife’s unwavering commitment to seeking peace, asking God to empower her to live peaceably with her husband, creating an environment that invites reconciliation and healing, making it possible for love to return.
Father, I pray for the reconciliation and peace that You intend for our marriage. Grant me the grace to live peaceably with my husband, so far as it depends on me, ensuring that my reactions never escalate conflict or push him further away. I ask that You would empower me to be a peacemaker, maintaining a posture of calm and grace that invites him back into loving covenant with me and with You.
23. Malachi 2:14 (ESV)
“But you say, ‘Why does he not?’ Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been unfaithful, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.”
This scripture is a reminder of the covenant nature of marriage, emphasizing that God is the witness and upholder of the vows. We pray for a powerful awakening in the husband’s heart to the gravity of his covenant mindset, asking God to convict him of his sacred promises. We pray that he would honor his wife, his companion, not out of obligation, but out of recognition that their bond is witnessed and sealed by the Lord himself.
Lord, I pray for a powerful awakening in my husband’s heart to the sanctity of our marriage covenant. Remind him that You were the witness between us and the wife of his youth, and that our bond is sacred and unbreakable. I pray that he would honor me, his companion, and that his love would be rooted in the faithful, enduring commitment sealed before You, ensuring the stability and restoration of our marriage.
Conclusion
To pray for a husband’s heart is to petition the God who created and defined love, trusting that His power is greater than any emotional distance or relational barrier. You have faithfully appealed to His standards of sacrificial love, forgiveness, and healing for both your husband’s heart and your own.
Continue to stand firm in faith, knowing that the Lord hears the cry of your heart and is moving sovereignly within the covenant of your marriage. Trust that as you focus on personal humility and abiding in God’s love, He will surely intervene, performing the miracle of restoration and bringing forth the tender affection you desire.
